Thoughts sharing for today

Malay Version :

Perkongsian Ilmu hari ini : Kecurangan Vs Kejayaan

People who spends time in promiscuity.
Like a married men falling in love with another woman,
A single woman looking for more than one boyfriend
A married woman who hoped a better man deserves her love, because her husband did not love her much
A single men who kept looking and looking for Ms Right.

These...
are an example of people who does not pursue success in life.

im sorry ...its the truth.

People who focus on making success in life ; DOES not mingle over emotional state of mind rather focus on what they can do about their life using...their head,resources and heart of course.

But, people who wouldn't care much about making achievements such as to be a writer or to study art or to become better than they can be...they would end up or slip away into such emotional state that they feel their heart is empty and must be filled with the joy of romance and attention.

They eventually caught up with the excitement of doing it in secrecy.
That's the very essence of a scandalous relationship.
Although the excitement of keeping the love secretly excites them, little did they know it does more damage than good to their emotional being.

Guilt,
Sinful,
Disloyalty,
Hurting.

Eventually...instead of wanting to be people who live their life like a pair of butterfly floating on the air drunk with love.

They will soon become miserable and feel even more lonely in life.

These thought are combination of assessment i got from watching some Hindi movie and reading Anthony Robbins book.

So...best advice : Pursue Success. Be the BEST you can be. Be HAPPY and GRATEFUL with your current partner unless they really having an attitude problem. Stop looking for emotional bandage but rather LIVE YOUR LIFE. Your success, your dreams and your FAITH.

Circle of Influence

Currently im reading Stephen’s Covey – The 7 habits of highly effective people although not continuously I thinks it is much better as it allow time for absorption into my mind.

At the moment im in the second habits and this part really useful, it taught us t focus only in our circle of influence which means(in my simple humble language) if you can’t do anything about it then its none of your business.

Well, there is 2 circles, the other one is Circle of Concern. These circle is pretty much what we had in our mind basically the things that we thought about.

Circle of Concern is about surrounding circumstances, about how people act around us, global warming, political or social issues…these are the things that we cannot change. But we are ‘concern’ about it… and so the result is we only focus on these things and has affected our mental and emotional and caused us easily brought away by peoples reaction and comment and also about the world…the outside of us.

Circle of Influence is about your own character, habit and the way you think. Its those things that you able to change. Such us on how you are able to extract the positive from others negative behavior by changing or improving the way you think about them. Its about the inside of you.

These are some good stuff I tell you as I come up with a quote from analyzing these circles, here it is :

Seeing the good in others is seeking the goodness in you.

Seeing the ugliness in others, Empowering the ugliness in you.

Therefore ; doesn’t matter how people act…its none of our business. What matters is ; how we think. How we feel. Is it positive energy we are processing? Or is it negative, and

You reap what you sow, once you are creating positive thoughts it turns into aura and so you will get positive rewards too.

This explained in the popular saying “Happy Go Lucky”

When people sense positive vibrant in you they will urge to reply positive reaction to you…why? Its because most people are reactive…and only proactive people able to enhance positive energy in every situation.

But again, nobody’s perfect…even positive people have their downs such as…PMS haha!

Well anyway, I strongly suggest you get this book, his theory is practical and logical and not simply some ‘band-aid’,’quick-fix’ self help book.